dear's make up day

is today loh, ahhaha... since last wk he promised to make up to me for gg out with his frens for 2 nites str. so tonigt we MUST hav quality n private time!! hahah...


met him aft work at aldephi (i walked fm ofc) n we went to eat burmese fd. learnin fm the experience last time, i ordered the safest non-spicy dish. in the end, its lk eatin bee hoon soup for sick ppl, except tt its salty loh. sianz, everytime go there oso end up with not nice food :(


then we walked to boat quay area, lookin for winebos. was sup to go another place for drinks, bt since i last min work kana sai thrown at me, i met dear late n so we missed the happy hr loh.


anyway, had a hard time lookin for winebos! crowd was rowdy n noisy (got drunk ang mohssss) n our table feels lk we r being gawked at in the zoo. so we left n went over to central for coffee. my legs were breakin already, since i walked fm raffles to city hall n back to boat quay. dear had norm hot coffee and i had this at TCC:

sup to b iced coffee with red beans loh. bt the coffee nt as nice as starbucks or coffee bean. quite tasteless. w/o the red beans n choc chips, i tink i would hav tot its plain water man. super sucks. nt cheap oso. abt $7.

anyway, aft the coffee, we went to take 147 fm chinatown pt. so walked agn!! tis time my legs reali cmi man. on the way hm walkin fm the queensway bus stop, i jus gave up n took off my shoes n walked bare-footed hm.

one mth weddin anniversary!

our dinner -->

pizza was nice, refreshin combi of havin cucumber on pizza, hahah... bt the pasta super sucks. was dry n the fettuccine was hard!

aft dinner, we walked all the way to centrepoint to take a look at harvey norman. realised the prices of the furniture means that we will never ever (for tis hse at least) buy fm there. mayb electronics reali will b cheap with the manager's help bah, duno....

then we walked all the way to take 64 at the bus stop before liang court. my legs r cryin, screaming n breakin already. plus takin the Hans peach tarts n makin sure tt they r not crushed is no easy feat man. in the end, ate the tarts at my hse, ahhahahha!

dear stayed over

last nite, cos initially i told him i'll b alone at hm when parents go wake overnight. since also need to buy paint fm the shop downstairs today, it was easier also.

so today, we took the car n bought paint over to the new hse. choose lily white for the walls of all the rooms and white for the ceiling and kitchen. also bought mahagony brown glossy paint for the gate and doors. wa, super sweaty and tiring today to paint man. dear did most of the painting n i cleaned up the walls n paint the smaller parts. then i went hm to bathe, wash hair n went over to the wake.

tommorow is the crematation already. one week of mourning had past.

the passing away

of my da jiu ma...

tis mornin was awaken by repeated phone calls n turns out that my da jiu ma had passed away during the nite. so called up parents n inform them. since already planned to go new hse as dear's parents wanted to take a look at it, i proceeded with the plan loh.

dad borrowed car fm fren n picked me up fm hm. then went over new hse a short while. dear fetched parents hm and to the wake n then went back to new hse to ferry his parents hm. so we had the TPY kway chup for dinner n then we went over to courts to look at furniture (got sale ad on newsp mah). then i went hm to change n go over to wake with dear.

was thrilling 4 dear since he get to drive the car ard the whole day, hahahah....

busy with house

is on ISL job, so is v near new hse. so wat hap was yest aft work, went over to new hse to see see look look the condition so can noe today start work on where and what to buy. so had a quick pop by at the hse n dear left to meet D, E and L for dinner. me n parents went hm fm hse.

today, we started scrapping the walls and puttin wall putty at areas where there are cracks or holes. so us + parents spent a lot of time and sweat tryin to tidy up the place also. aft tt, we went over to have dinner at redhill market n took the free shuttle to PS to go Spotlight n look at curtains. nearly bought the curtains n the rod, stopped cos decided to re-measure the window (seems lk the window until the edge of the wall n so cant choose the rod with a design as finisher?). better still, since i cant make up my mind on the colour of the curtain tt i wan. then dear left to meet his scouts frens so me n parents went hm fm PS.

got a bit pissed on the bus, since he made no effort to spend quality time with me n was late in reaching the new hse today. anyway, we din reali speak to each other the whole day oso. he replied he will make it up to me next wk. oh well, we shall c then....

hse keys

went for mpc in the mornin, then check hse n sign the docs at hdb. forgot to bring marriage cert, so its smtin we need to follow up n send a copy to them agn.

feelin a bit down now cos

1) we had a lengthy argument/discussion abt the contribution rate to the hse expenses. which started cos one qn we discussed at mpc was "my partner is stubborn abt certain topics". to which i said he insisted tt things shld b 50/50. coupled with the thing tt we need to decide on the giro for the utilities, tis topic bcm an overhangin issue in the air cos we din get to discuss it aft the mpc. only got to discuss it on the way hm fm his hse aft dinner jus now

2) renovation on the hse will b a big overhaul cos a lot of things r too old. eg the pipes, the lights etc. sm things we dun even noe hw to hack/renew. gonna need to buy cement too, cos got holes in the wall. totally clueless now. cos its nt lk new hse where its easy to start fm scratch.

3) stil sick. kana blocked nose liao. oh ya, another irritating thing is tt i checked on my leave records on Tues n realised tt stupid HR deducted my annual leave for a missing mc on 29/10!!!! they jus deduct lk tt loh. i even checked in jan (sup account closing) to make sure past events/timesheets r cleared. arghhh.. n i had to recall which doc i went to (which i cant!!) so as to take a duplicate mc. in the end, checked my records n call e usual doc all drew a blank. last resort was to check blog. lucky got entry tt day n i knew which doc i went to loh. if its the ofc doc at Raffles Place i tink dun need to get duplicate mc liao loh, cos the branch closed liao n they r always so busy loh. wa lau, super angry at HR.

felt v tired today

so in the end, dear went temple himself n i din get to buy the tee tt i wanted to buy. aft tt, dear came over to my hse n we discussed abt the hse reno b4 gg 4 dinner at AV.

talked abt things. apologized for things. decide to move on.

arguments

been havin arguments. started on wed wen we ad-hoc decided to meet, then decided to go ikea to discuss digio dates. had sent dear the proposed dates the nite b4, since had mentioned tt need to book dates for some time already. dear said since i got so many criterias i shld go propose dates n he jus choose fm the dates. which led to my email on tue nite.

since it was ad-hoc, he din print the email so we din hav anythin to discuss with. he started the conversation with a date tt is nt in the list, 7 days away, bcos he is on early shift tt day thus can save a day of leave. he did reply my email with tis date, bt as i was on course, i din access my emails.

then i started grumblin abt y he made me cm up with a list wen its nt refered to, cos i felt v unappreciated. n oso cos wen i did the list, i dun even noe hw to eliminate dates, so i jus chose mondays n fridays. then the whole thing escalated, cos he felt tt it shld b a discussion, so dates outside the list is acceptable. so the usual comments abt poor tone, attitude, tone, volume etc came up. guess wat - i spilled the drink on myself. n he jus sat there, smilin n playin with his ring. i retorted 'ya, jus go ahead sit there n play with your ring'. n he continued smiling. i stood up, n went to look for paper tissues. FURIOUS. cant he do smting? wen i walked back, he wasn even lookin over his shoulder or checkin on me.

i packed up my things into my bag. he asked 'r u gg to toilet?'. i said 'no, i'm leavin'. took my bag n walked away. he caught up at the bridge n we walked to Home-fix (bcos i had mentioned earlier tt we need to get paint colour samples). all the while he din say anythin to me. i said sparse statements abt paint n floorin n we left.

walkin hm, i cant take it n asked 'u hav nothin to say?'. he gave me face n said 'wat abt u? u walked off n until now did nt say anythin.' HUH!??! so we argued argued n wen we reached the rd, we stopped walking (he was nt gg to send me hm, as an agreement incentive to go ikea discuss) n continued arguing. at a pt, he walked inside, to the grass patch. i wasn hapi tt he jus turned off lk tt, so i made a face. he saw it n wasn hapi. i was lk 'nvm. so move in, ok i move in'. wen i walked in, he walked off n crossed the rd. i shouted back at him n he con't walkin off to his bus-stop. (?!?!??!?!?!?!!!!!??!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

i called him on hp, he say he got tell me he is gg off. its jus i din hear it. he din hear me shouting back at him. he's nt gg to turn back n cont talkin cos he is v du lan.

so the phone conversation con't until i was home. until he was hm. then he decided to stop there. to go bathe, eat etc n talk later at 1030.

1030 i sms him, tellin to meet online instead. cont abt the dates n the argument. wen he cant take it n wana slp, he rushed me. so i wrap up the issue. then he say gd nite. then i cont talkin. then he said bye n jus left the conversation. ?!??!?!?!?!??!!?!!!! he walked out on me a second time. sent him sms bt he no reply. i knew he went to slp already.

since there is no closure on the matter, the mood today was stil off. plus he was v busy at work n got issue fm a mistake he made yest, it was worse. wats worse was i forgot to call digio to book the dates so called him on my way hm to call instead. he was nappin. so he called then i wanted to change the dates tt he arranged, so there was even more tension. plus, his mum overheard him calling digio n started complainin abt the coat agn. he snapped n shouted back.

resultin in him nt wantin to talk, n me questionin.

sigh.

we r gg to talk abt the mum ting n the hse ting tom. already v SIAN now with the argument hangover. there is no closure, makin it even worse. hw can things move forward? feelin v down now. wen i tink back on wed, i wonder hw he can do those tings tt make me feel hurt.